Every September I treated the first Monday as a switch: summer off, autumn on. And every year, around the middle of the month, I crashed. Why the jump is the problem, and how to turn it into a slope by rebuilding one anchor at a time.
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There is nothing pressing in front of you, and instead of relief you get an itch. Why boredom feels like a small emergency to an ADHD or AuDHD brain, what surfaces when you stay with it, and six small places to practise.
You get home from the day out, close the door, and something in you goes flat. Why socialising costs an ADHD or AuDHD brain more than it looks, why the replay starts at bedtime, and how to plan the recovery as carefully as the event.
My phone lives on a stand in the kitchen, and the small inconvenience of having to go and get it is exactly why I use it less. Why willpower is the wrong tool for screens with an ADHD brain, and what to do instead this summer.
You get to the end of the day and cannot point to a single thing you actually finished. You were busy the whole time. You barely stopped. And yet the list is longer than it was this morning, and the one thing that mattered is still sitting there, untouched. If that is a familiar feeling, [...]
Summer is the thing you looked forward to all year. So why does it feel so unsettling? Take the first free morning of the holidays. No alarm, no school run, no meeting at nine. You wake up, and it feels like it should be simple. Do one nice thing today. And somehow it is two [...]
How ADHD or AuDHD affects driving, learning to drive, fines and the DVLA rules in plain English. A warm, practical UK guide for adults.
Most ADHD conversations focus on what is hard. That is half the picture. A strengths-based look at executive function tells a more useful story.
You used to cope. You held it all together. The career, the family, the house, the social life, the mental load. It was hard, but you managed. Then somewhere in your late thirties or early forties, it all started to unravel. You cannot focus. You cannot remember things. You are exhausted all the time. You [...]
Someone makes an offhand comment. It was nothing. They have already forgotten they said it. But you have not. It is replaying in your head on a loop. Your chest tightens. Your face burns. You feel like you have been punched. Welcome to Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria. When you understand what is happening, the spiral gets [...]
