If your habits keep slipping, the problem was never willpower. Here is what hiring a personal trainer taught me about why an ADHD brain will show up for a person long after it stops showing up for a plan.
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Every September I treated the first Monday as a switch: summer off, autumn on. And every year, around the middle of the month, I crashed. Why the jump is the problem, and how to turn it into a slope by rebuilding one anchor at a time.
From the boat at sunset. My own photograph.
There is nothing pressing in front of you, and instead of relief you get an itch. Why boredom feels like a small emergency to an ADHD or AuDHD brain, what surfaces when you stay with it, and six small places to practise.
You start a sentence without knowing how it ends. Halfway through, you hear yourself say the thing you actually meant, and it surprises you as much as anyone else in the room. That is verbal processing. Working out what you think by saying it, rather than sorting it silently first and announcing the finished version. [...]
Round the Island Race, from the boat. The day I am describing.
You get home from the day out, close the door, and something in you goes flat. Why socialising costs an ADHD or AuDHD brain more than it looks, why the replay starts at bedtime, and how to plan the recovery as carefully as the event.
There is no shortage of productivity advice out there. Most of it is written by people whose brains work in straight lines. If you are running a business with an ADHD or AuDHD brain, you do not need another system designed for someone else. You need tools that work with the way you actually think, [...]
My phone lives on a stand in the kitchen, and the small inconvenience of having to go and get it is exactly why I use it less. Why willpower is the wrong tool for screens with an ADHD brain, and what to do instead this summer.
You get to the end of the day and cannot point to a single thing you actually finished. You were busy the whole time. You barely stopped. And yet the list is longer than it was this morning, and the one thing that mattered is still sitting there, untouched. If that is a familiar feeling, [...]
If you have an ADHD or AuDHD brain, you have probably been told to try harder more times than you can count. Focus more. Forget less. Push through. None of that touches what is really going on, which is that your brain is built differently and has needs of its own. I came back recently [...]
You can hardly move for talk of AI at the moment. Some of it is exciting, a lot of it is noise, and if your head already feels full, the whole subject can be one more thing you have no energy for. I want to offer something calmer. I am an ADHD coach. I have [...]
